NLP - Neuro linguistic programming

By: Loretta Peters-Martin, CCH, ACH

Have you ever daydreamed? Have you ever missed an exit off the freeway or taken a wrong turn because your mind wandered somewhere else? Daydreaming, chopping vegetables, and other repetitive tasks are forms of hypnosis. When I work out, I experience a trance-like state. I have to keep a pen and paper handy because I suddenly get a fresh, creative idea or I remember to calendar something that I had previously forgotten. Hypnosis comes in many packages. Most adults, on average, go in and out of hypnosis naturally 6-7 times a day. Children pretty much live in a state of “trance”.

Have you noticed all the pharmaceutical commercials the past few years?  This is subliminal programming – a form of hypnosis.  These commercials hypnotize people into believing they have certain symptoms.  When someone hears these “affirmations” over and over, they can create dis-ease in their bodies.  They go to the doctor to get tested, and sure enough – they need the drug.  I would highly recommend muting these commercials, as well as turning off the tv before dozing off to sleep.  When we’re sleeping, we are not consciously filtering out the garbage and negativity.

Hypnosis is not what we’ve seen on tv or in the movies.  It is not a form of mind control, and it is not “of the devil”.  No one can hypnotize anyone into doing anything that is against his or her morals or ethics, and no one can be hypnotized into doing something that they do not want to do.  Hypnosis is a focused state of awareness.  Hypnosis is also a powerful way for us to use our imagination to get the results we desire.  When we are in a state of hypnosis, our conscious mind is relaxed and our subconscious mind is susceptible to suggestion.  We are also aware of our surroundings and what is happening.

You have heard about the left-brain and right-brain.  The left brain is our logical mind -- the one that says:  “Don’t touch the stove; you’ll get burned,” “I have to go to work today,” or “Pick up the dry cleaning.”  The right brain is the creative mind -- the subconscious mind and the place where the inner child resides.  Our subconscious mind has about a 10 year-old mentality.  Much of what we experience and perceive by the age of 10 can be embedded in our subconscious.  Have you ever wondered why our dreams can be strange and symbolic?  It is so the subconscious mind (the inner child) can process and understand.  If you have kids, you know how they can take things literally.

Here are some examples of how children (and our subconscious minds) take things literally.  When I was a little girl, I was an Army brat.  We moved around a great deal to places like Germany, Texas and Georgia.  When I was 5 and my brother was 4, we lived in Ft. Benning, Georgia and played with a friend our age – a little girl whose mom is Caucasian and whose dad is African-American.  That was my first experience around a “mixed” child – i.e., the beautiful olive skin, the green eyes and the curly blonde hair.  One day my mom said to my brother and me:  “She’s hateful.”  As an adult, I know what my mom meant by that, as the little girl had some sneaky, vindictive ways about her.  However, my little 5 year-old mind understood that to be:  “Mixed children are hateful.”  For a long time after that, I thought all “mixed” kids were hateful.  As an adult, this is still embarrassing to me, but I was just a child.  Do you see how the little child’s mind works?  The right brain – the subconscious mind – is where many of our experiences and memories are stored from childhood.

Most everyone has suppressed emotions from childhood.  Even if we grew up in a functional family, we can still suppress issues and hold experiences in our subconscious minds.  For instance, take the African-American male who was one of the top salespeople in his company, but he couldn’t make it to the number one slot.  Whenever he got close, he felt something sabotaging him – pulling him back.  He dreamt of making 6 digits a year and having his own company.  What came up for him during hypnosis was the suppressed statement his mother made to him when he was a young boy:  “Son, you’ll excel at everything you do, but you’ll never have what rich white men have.”  Do you see how the young subconscious mind can be affected?

Take the woman who has been married and divorced 5 times – in and out of relationships.  Each time she was in a great relationship, she would do something to sabotage it.  What came up for her during hypnosis was a memory of helping her mom with the dishes when she was a little girl.  Her parents just had a little argument.  It was nothing major.  They were simply miffed at each other.  The mother stated to her:  “Don’t ever trust men – they’re not worth the trouble.”  Do you see how she was subconsciously sabotaging herself all those years just to keep from trusting men?

Not every child who would hear these words would take on the same belief system as those mentioned above, but each of us has our own unique belief systems, thought patterns and emotional triggers from our past experiences.

In order to have the lives we desire, we must release the gunk.  Hypnosis is an excellent way of releasing false beliefs we accepted in the past.  It is a powerful tool for releasing old concepts and belief systems which no longer serve us.  Highly trained hypnotists have many different tools in their tool boxes and use different modalities, as there are many ways to let go of the old, false beliefs in order to make room for the healthy new beliefs, and every individual is unique.  When we do our inner work, we become happy and successful, and thrive in all areas of our lives -  including health, career and relationships.

Loretta Peters-Martin, CCH, ACH, is a Certified and Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master Hypnotist, Life Coach, Counselor, Food/Nutrition Coach and Speaker.  In addition to seeing clients individually, she also offers group hypnosis workshops on everything from improving self-esteem to weight loss and nutrition, as well as many other topics.  Loretta also holds seminars and workshops on achieving abundance and prosperity, while teaching others how to tap into their full potential.  Her greatest joy is helping others attain health, wealth and happiness.  For more info, visit www.lorettapeters.com

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This article is about an alternative approach to interpersonal communications and psychotherapy. For the academic field which investigates the neural mechanisms underlying language, see neurolinguistics.

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