How to use our body language on a date when our body can produce over 700,000 unique movements
More than 90% of the date is conveyed by non-verbal means. you think you have said all the right things, but in the end it's all about chemistry! Do you have good chemistry?
Our brain detects non verbal signs to analyze if you are a good match, and most of that is an unconscious process, which you can now understand and control using the body language cards. Create the chemistry, by mastering the non-verbal language.
We polish our verbal skills for years but few of us give much consideration to their non verbal communication and body language skills that support the verbal messages and can make the difference.
Up-to-date research has proven that the large majority of messages are received in varying levels of effectiveness. The impact you make on others depends on what you say (7%), how you say it (38%), and by your body language (55%).
More than 90% of our communication is conveyed by non-verbal means. Body language is the main factor in such communication. This is an ancient form of interaction that is even more evident in the animal world. The non-verbal messages are mostly perceived in our unconsciousness leading us to a hunch or a feeling regarding a person or a situation: "I don't like him, I can feel he is lying" or on the positive side, "I immediately felt connected to her".
We can read other thoughts like open cards. The thoughts in our minds transfer into feeling that get an emotional expressions that our body pronounces in thousand of gestures, postures, and expressions.
The human body can produce over 700,000 unique movements. These movements have been partitioned into about 60 discrete and symbolic signals and around 60 gestures, postures, and expressions.
Body language can be used to improve your negotiation skills, your presentation ability, and in different social interactions, including in a date.
Reading body language is a valuable key at a date, it gives you more tools than you could have. To succeed over other confronts you must be attentive to what silent body gestures you are giving off, you also need to be aware of the spouse body language.
If it is a natural form of communication, why do I need to learn it?
Only a small percentage of the population perceive the non-verbal signs at the conscious level and can use body language as a tool to "read" others and to present themselves and their messages in a reliable way. These people can create empathy, detect lies within seconds, and feel immediately when it's the right time to close a deal. Others can learn it; many politicians practice body language techniques and use personal training for these purposes. Similarly, police and security experts are trained to understand body language as a tool to detect lies. In the corporate world, body language interpretation is a key tool during the date and hiring process of new employees. Some companies even have a body language expert present during date s and as part of a negotiation team for large-scale deals.
Body language tips for a date:
Keep an open body - "I have nothing to hide".
Straight, open hands forming one line with arm, shows honesty and openness.
Keep open body posture and appropriate eye contact. Seat yourself at a reasonable distance from your date partner.
Most of the people find it too hard to lie while their hands are open (and our brain detects it unconsciously).
- "The eyes are often called, 'the windows of the soul' as they can send many different non-verbal signals.
- Eye contact often increases significantly when we are listening, and especially when we are paying close attention to what the other person is saying.Do that!
- Less eye contact is used when talking, particularly by people who are visual thinkers as they stare into the distance or upwards as they 'see' what they are talking about.
When a person makes very little eye contact, he may be feeling insecure. People may also be lying and not want to be detected; it also could be as a result of a cultural behavior.
A good smile has the power to say, "I'm a happy, confident person and I'd love to be here". Practice a smile that puts people at ease. It's just as much your responsibility to ensure that there is a relaxed atmosphere during the date.
Try to avoid locking your ankles even if they are hidden from the eyes of your date partner. It's a blocking and negative gesture that affects your state of mind.
As a rule it is difficult for most people to control their legs since they are far from the head. This is even difficult for those people who are extremely aware of their body language.
Don't forget, people want to feel special. They want to feel as though you are speaking to them directly or that they are the most important in the room.
Mastering the secrets of the body language might be complicated. Body language is a visual mode of communication- you cannot learn it just from reading- you need to see it. Body Language Cards do just that; they flood your consciousness with the visual gestures and connect it to its meaning.
Most important: It works!!!
Body Language Cards are used as an integral part for professional body language courses; they are practiced as an educational devise in corporations; Body Language Cards are even used in psychology courses in colleges all over the world as they were recently translated in 4 additional languages.